How to Have a Friends-With-Benefits Relationship?

Friends with benefits or also known as fuck friends is referred to a type of sexual relation, where you and the girl, both like each other and are having sex on a regular basis, but both of you know that this is not a real relationship. Usually, in this type of relationship, fidelity is not expected and any form of claiming exclusivity, is out of place. How to keep that kind of relationship and not let to lead to disaster?

Set a clear set of rules

If you want to have fun as fuck friends, then set clear rules with the girl, that will apply to both of you equally. What can that be? Virtually everything, starting with regular meetings, exclusivity, level of mutual crossing of private life, and so on. In one word: define what are you expecting from each other and how much of friendship should be in this layout. Without clear principles and leaving out some of the things to second guessing, it is really easy to lose yourself and mistake sex with full time relationship. And this, always leads to someone being hurt.

Be consistent

You have decided, that after the sex, she goes back to her place and you don’t watch tv together? Then stick to it. Don’t make exceptions from this rule, otherwise you will open the door to imagination and expectation, that this thing can turn into love. If you know, from the start, that there is no way for that – don’t let the boundaries to be crossed. If the girl will keep doing it regardless, simply ending the relationship, will be the best thing for both of you.

Don’t drag the relationship

Friends with benefits is usually an arrangement, that should last long. The safest option is for 3 months – this way, you will avoid getting used to each other and it will be easier to get out of it. Besides, the fact that it is time to end this thing, will be preceded with few signals. Which ones? Sex related, more frequent meetings. You will start asking each other for a favour or figuring out the ways of spending time together etc. If you only want to have a sex friend – don’t get yourself into this type of actions and cut this relation right away, before it will be too late. Don’t let her begging, beautiful eyes to convince you to try again. No means no.